Mark Grimm


Dating Naked Lawsuit: Publicity Stunt for “Exposure”

A Dating Naked reality show contestant is suing because the program showed her naked. You couldn’t make this up.

Jessie Nizewitz / VH1 photo

28-year-old Long Island model Jessie Nizewitz claims in a $10-million lawsuit that the VH1 network and the produces told her they would blur out her private parts. They didn’t…..when she was mud wrestling.

Oh, it gets even better.

Her lawyer, Matthew Blit, is the “patron saint of pole dancers,” according to the Daily News, for his vigorous representation of strippers.

Nizewitz told Entertainment Weekly she “was shocked, horrified and outraged to observe this intrusion into her privacy for all to see.” This from a woman who revealed her birthday suit for the shooting. She also told the NY Post her boyfriend hasn’t called her back since the episode aired. And her grandmother is mad at her. Can you blame grandma? The bridge club is going to be a little awkward this week.

Can there be a better example of someone seeking her 15 minutes of fame? If she was really concerned about her privacy, a high-profile lawsuit would be the last action to take, so the use of a lawyer such as Evansville personal injury attorney, is perfect for these lawsuits.

Of course, this publicity stunt is working. The unknown model is all over the tabloids and morning news shows. Can a Barbara Walters’ interview and a Playboy shoot be far behind?

The publicity will certainly boost the show’s mediocre ratings. So VH1 is likely smiling a bit. Release forms almost always favor the producers so there would have to have been a major legal screw up for Nizewitz to have any chance in court.

In the court of public opinion, the verdict is already in: once again the line has been blurred between fame and shame.

The writer is a speaking coach and communication strategist with 30 years of on-camera experience.

Hotel Puts Price Tag on Free Speech

A Hudson, NY hotel has threaten to fine couples that get married there for any negative review posted about the hotel — from any wedding party guest.

What a way to start the honeymoon.

Here’s the policy (now removed) from the Union Street Guest House’s website:

If you have booked the Inn for a wedding or other type of event anywhere in the region and given us a deposit of any kind for guests to stay at USGH there will be a $500 fine that will be deducted from your deposit for every negative review of USGH placed on any internet site by anyone in your party and/or attending your wedding or event. If you stay here to attend a wedding anywhere in the area and leave us a negative review on any internet site you agree to a $500. fine for each negative review.

Amid an Internet firestorm, the hotel tried to defuse the situation by claiming the post was outdated and placed there tongue-in-cheek. However, someone claiming to be a former guest said he received this email from the hotel:

“please note that your recent on-line review of our Inn will cost the wedding party that left us a deposit $500.  This money be charged via  the deposit they have left us unless/until it is removed.  Any other or future reviews will also be charged to the wedding party (bride & groom) from the guarantee they have provided us.”

Doesn’t sound like tongue-in-cheek to me.

It’s unclear if the hotel actually ever kept a couple’s deposit, but the threat is damage enough.

The online reviews service,, compounded the problem by removing criticism of the hotel policy on its site. It insisted first-hand experience at the hotel qualified people to post. Really? You don’t need to visit the hotel to have an opinion about its policy.

Attempts at the manipulation of free speech are not only the work of politicians and government. The corporate world engages in it as well and the price and quality of products and services we buy are affected by it.

Keep vigilant. Any attempt to inhibit speech is a loss for all of us.

The writer is a longtime 1st Amendment advocate and former TV anchor/reporter.


Tell the Truth Well: How to Prepare for Your Next Crisis

When it comes to crisis communication, there is no substitute for doing the right thing. The PR world is littered with reputation carcasses of people who thought they could spin their way out of trouble.

Penn State leaders did irrefutable damage to the university’s reputation by trying to cover up the criminal conduct of a now convicted child molester. Their total disregard for the welfare of children painted themselves into a corner that no amount of PR could ever completely fix. The university’s crisis communication plan should have been put in place the moment the scandal was revealed to them — fire everyone involved, present a clear plan to prevent the atrocity from ever happening again and begin persistent and effective work to help victims of abuse.The irony is, of course, Penn State leaders failed to act initially because they feared bad publicity would affect its reputation. How well did that strategy work? Check out Mike G Law to get to know about it.

The time to start work on a crisis communication plan is long before a crisis occurs. When a crisis hits, people act emotionally and often times those involved are reluctant to speak freely because they fear the blame may be pinned on them.

Any organization or business should have a written plan on what it would do should a communication crisis occur. The plan should answer questions like, “Who is responsible for getting the whole story? Who is the press spokesperson? What are the legal ramifications? Who are the key stakeholders who need to be consulted? What are our values?

Questions like these require a contemplative approach that is difficult to pull off when the sparks are flying.

These steps are much more likely to make the most out of a bad situation:

1-    Act with Reason, not Emotion.

Easier said than done. It’s especially hard when some media people are acting irresponsibly to jazz up the story. Follow the plan, be respectful and focus on creating a positive end result.

2-    Show Genuine Empathy to Those Harmed
Empathy is not a show, it’s a heart-felt trait that needs to be genuine. If the CEO is not capable of it, put someone out there who is.

The BP Fiasco:

BP CEO Tony Hayward’s purpose when meeting the press shortly after the worst oil spill in U.S. history was to apologize to those harmed. It did not come across that way:

“There’s no one who wants this over more than I do. I’d like my life back.”

Note to Tony: It’s not about you, it’s about them. That one statement had catastrophic public relations consequences that may have cost the company billions more in settlement costs.

3-    Find Out All the Facts

As a former news reporter, I saw many instances when the people under fire in a crisis got their facts wrong up front. This is often interpreted by the media and the general public as “lying” or trying to spin the story. In many cases, it was actually due to conflicting stories given by employees in the heat of the crisis. Emotions are raw and rumors are rampant. Take the time to get to the truth. This is not easy when there is a clamoring for information, but the alternative is to sink your credibility right from the start. By the way, sometimes people do fudge things in a crisis. That’s a bad strategy.

4-    Get Ahead of the Story

Do not be in the position of always playing defense. Be proactive about shaping the narrative of the story. Think often about what you want the headline to be and have a strategy for making that happen.

The Tylenol scare:

In 1982, seven people in the Chicago area died after taking Tylenol laced with cyanide. It triggered a national scare with people throwing away their medicine bottles and stores pulling Tylenol from their shelves. Though Johnson & Johnson (Tylenol’s owner) was not negligent, it paid a price for the criminal acts of others. Tylenol’s share dropped to six percent of the analgesic market.

Its response:

Johnson & Johnson moved quickly to remove Tylenol from shelves, offered an exchange program for customers, ordered an internal investigation of its distribution process, promised full cooperation with government investigators and began to develop tamper-proof packaging. It later conducted a massive media campaign which re-introduced the product and distributed 80 million free coupons for it.

The proactive and thorough plan worked. Within a year, Tylenol regained 80 percent of its former market share. This proactive response no doubt cost J & J a fortune but their focus on the long-term picture saved the Tylenol brand. Incidentally, over 30 years later, the murders remain unsolved.

5-    Listen Actively 

The Internet and social media remind us communication is a two-way street. Be an active listener to what people are saying and writing on the Internet. Engage them in the dialogue and be open-minded about their suggestions and complaints. Ignore the Internet at your peril. As PR strategist Judy Gombita puts it, “Social media have made molehills into mountains.”

6-    Be Your Own Media Outlet

You cannot afford to count on the media to get it right in a crisis. While there are many hard-working and honest journalists, there are also many reporters and editors with their own agenda. Additionally, the financial realities of journalism have led to a greater number of less seasoned reporters who make mistakes due to inexperience, not by design.

Twenty-first century technology allows a company or organization to communicate directly and quickly to a mass audience, with a message that is unfiltered by any media. Build this infrastructure in advance of a crisis and use every tool available, including video, to reach people, shape opinion and generate supporters. Encourage them to spread the word on their own.

7-    Seek Professional Advice

If you need a root canal, go to a dentist. When a communication crisis hits, the counsel you get could be the difference between riding out the storm or experiencing a full-blown disaster. Rely on professional advice from someone who can provide a fresh set of eyes to the problem. The seasoned perspective may be the best investment you ever make.

8-    Do the Right Thing

Never underestimate the value of good conduct in a crisis. People have shown remarkable forgiveness to those willing to admit their mistakes and present a plan for fixing a problem. Time and time again the cover up has caused far more damage than the original mistake. Even with presidents. Richard Nixon resigned because of the Watergate cover up, not the burglary. The House of Representatives impeached Bill Clinton not for his misconduct with an intern, but for lying about it under oath and obstructing the investigation.

Every crisis tests our values. Are you sure what yours are? Answer that question well and have a strong plan in place that reinforces your culture and the next communication crisis will be something you should be able to manage.

The writer is a former TV news anchor/reporter and adjunct media professor who runs a communication training and strategic counseling company.